The most notable changes are in my son's behaviour. When I was starting this blog, he was seven years of age and had just started primary school education. He is now in class five. When I look at his past photos I just can't believe how much he has grown. I never imagined us getting to this point. All the same, I am grateful to God for His protection over my son and me.
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Behaviours at Seven
Four years ago, I had a son who would rely on mommy to do everything, from taking a proper shower to separating dirty and clean laundry. My son hated showers and when we moved into the countryside, the only way to get him to wash his body was by running him a bath. He would enjoy soaking in the bathtub for an hour and would only get out when the water got cold. I would massage his body with oil and help him in getting dressed.
Other behaviours included:
- playing outdoors with neighbours children
- Doing homework with difficulties
- Being rebellious and moody
- Constantly lying to me
- Lack of interest in household or farm chores
Tables have turned and my boy is a complete opposite now that he is 11 years old. I don't know if this has to do with growing up or the changes in his schooling environment but whatever the case, I know I love the new boy. He takes showers without being asked to, and he knows where the dirty laundry goes. He no longer likes my massages and can't stand me looking at him while getting dressed.
Changes in Children's Play
According to children's topics online, changes in children's behaviour from 3-18 years is either gradual or sudden. If it is gradual, you should rejoice because your children are developing normally. On the other hand, if you notice sudden changes in children's behaviour, you ought to investigate what is going on in their lives. Sudden behavioural changes in children could mean:
- they have health issues
- are being bullied at school
- are being sexually abused
- or they are abusing drugs
Check out the normal and abnormal behaviours in children from age three to 18.
Changes in children's play are significant when they approach teens. I have seen this in my boy. Earlier he enjoyed playing outdoors while socializing with the neighbour's kids. These days he prefers playing video games or watching his favourite kids' movies and animations. If kids come over to our house he will play and be nice to them, but he no longer goes out of his way to visit them in their homes. He has asked on several occasions to check out some cool boy games online. But knowing the risks involved with children and the Internet, I just don't want to expose him to these as yet.
His favourite car toys are now gathering dust on some shelf because they don't impress him much these days.
Changes in Children's Needs and Style
Teenagers still need their parents love. Since I sent my son to boarding school, he seems to need me more when he comes home. He loves it when we do activities together such as preparing meals, feeding hens, cows and the dogs, or simply cleaning the house. While he needs to feel my presence as we do these activities he also tries to show mom that he is growing and becoming responsible. In a way, he needs my approval of his new self.
He is also very protective of me, he still was when younger. When I get smartly dressed as if I am stepping out, he will question where I am headed.
Further still, he has moved from his bedroom into mine. I tried talking to him about moving back into his bedroom and he seemed disturbed, so I let him sleep in my bedroom throughout the holidays. I imagined he misses me when he goes to school. In the November holidays, I will insist on him using his bedroom from the first day and see how he will take it.
Another significant change in my son is his dress style. He seems to like certain clothes over others. These days when I buy him something in his absence I have to ask if he likes it. When we are shopping together he chooses what he wants.
The other day when we were doing back to school shopping, he needed boys sandals. He gave me clear instructions to get him boys crocs because according to him they are stylish and durable.
Share your child's age and the behavioural changes you have noticed in him or her lately.